Different in person?

[almostnone]

why is that if you talk to a bbw in person, most of the time their easy to talk with & approachble and here most are snoobish? or is it me.. hehehe

peace out everyone!

[amberrose89 (deleted)]

`Well I know personally, that I am much more likely to respond warmly to someone I can see. Whether it be in person or pictures, than I am if I can't. I also tend to go off of the guy, if he's talking and joking, I'm more comfortable talking. Also whether in person or through messaging. On a more general level, every woman bbw or skinny have different personalities, some are more stand-offish to new people while others are very open and talkitive. It really just depends on the individual.

[eros89]

`See, for me, it's been the opposite: warm, open, and confident online but stand of fish or just plain nuts once offline. For instance one woman I talked to became very clingy without even meeting.

[heavysteps76 (deleted)]

when you are talking to her on the phone, she has a barrier between you, and she has invested nothing, and taken no risk, if it doesn't sound good, she can simply hang up.

when she comes to meet you, she has invested her time, and she has taken a HUGE RISK, the risk is hoping for happiness, dreaming of the most remote chance of her happy ever after, women are generally more profoundly affected by their emotions than us men are, and so their fear of rejection can sometimes be downright terrifying. and in person, she cant just hang up and not answer your calls, their is no margin of emotional safety

add to that the way that our society treats bbw's and if its a big woman you are going to meet, it can sometimes feel like she is trying to fight the tides, the moon, and the stars just to force herself to say " hi i'm ______".
now granted, not all women are the same, but this just deals with a little tip of a great big iceberg! hope it helps

[vikingwolfie (deleted)]

`i find that the woman i meet on here are nice friendly and talk to me whether its just to say hello but im not interested but as we are just looking for friends most woman on here have no problem talking to me and nice post heavysteps

[charli2conway]

``Heavysteps, well said. Damn sounds like you're talking about me. I couldn't have said it better.

I find it a handicap wearing my heart on my sleeve. My biggest problem is seperating physical from emotional. I'm 55 and you'd think I'd grow out of this. After making bad decisions for what I call the right reasons, still can't seem to go w/the flow as I'm told. Not in an offhand way but like, I'm a big girl and have same needs & desires & if you really want to be w/someone; I'm told to just do what you feel. Sounds good but can make for an empty life. I'm just saying.